The next few posts will follow the theme of generation fight and address part of the collapse of our culture. This may not apply to you, and if it doesn’t you are the exception. As you read, however, there will probably be many people who do come to your mind. This is not an attempt to assert blame, only to investigate the cause and effect relationship between actions and their consequences on a macro sociological scale. This is part 2.
So they drank. and drank. And were quiet. About marital problems, about workplace issues, about education, about their war experience, about their childhood in the depression, they didn’t talk. Many exhibited almost a stoic nature about them in their quiet strength. They had to; what was the alternative, cry?
But this also meant, when it came to parenting, they were mostly quiet. Their standards meant discipline with a firm hand or belt or worse to meet a kid that crossed the line. Some weren’t, granted, but there are many stories of folks from that generation being very abusive, if not to spouse, to kids, or both. I can understand it, they live through a depression, fight a world war on two ends of the globe, come back and get a job in a factory all damn day, and then come home to some sniveling kid being disrespectful and not doing what he’s told? Yeah, there might be a little low bullshit level there. Combine that with high alcoholism and its a bad mix. So yes, discipline there was plenty to be had, but perhaps on the mentoring, love, and support end, there was not. It was lacking, & woefully so. Back then folks weren’t even studying it or acknowledging it, but I dare say it was still there.
So then these people who returned from the war had children, in record numbers. They called it the “baby boom.” And they raised kids. And if the women were unhappy, they were silent. If the men were unhappy, they were silent and drank. If the kids were good, the were pretty much free to do what they wanted. If they stepped out of line, there were severe consequences.
Key Subconscious Characteristics **##
**##Children observed a lack of emotional connection and support, mental development was done more on a peer level than with coaching from older ones. Discipline was about the only “love” they knew, and the older generation doesn’t complain much.
As the children see this, invariably, as any parent knows, the question “why?” comes up. Well, when they weren’t given answers and told to shut up and go to their room or outside, the question still lingers. Not understanding the history or purpose behind the way things are, these children grew up to question the status quo, but as kids are under the thumb of strict parents. Now let’s wait until they are in their teens and early 20’s.
Along comes another war, and the kids now almost or barely adults, the baby boomers, are still prone to question status quo. “We are going into another war, why? Why are we there? Why is this necessary? And ultimately, what’s in it for me?” A rebellious streak is certainly within some of the baby boomers, but also a bit of conceit. After all, with many families having several children, an over-taxed mother and an absent minded father, both of which probably have communication issues or just don’t communicate well at all, to say their children were hungry for attention might be well justified.
**## Some of you may disagree with this, but looking at history and through personal experience, there are two things that stand out in my mind. The baby boomers are obsessed with “fairness” and are the most selfish generation of individuals I have ever seen. I’ll explain why later on, but this is fact.
Ironic considering the most selfless generation was their parents. But when they are only the recipients of prosperity without understanding what generated it, the only logical desire is to want more. They have no comparison to how good they have it if they’ve never seen or heard about less. Sure, they may have studied the depression in school, but most of their adults were depression-era too. Plus when you don’t experience the actual hardship that it took to get there, you take it for granted.
So these young adults are now in a war, but unlike their disciplined, silent, unwavering steadfast parents who without question went to war; now these young adults are not going quietly. War protests are common. Draft card burnings are happening. Those that are going are rather lassies-faire or malaise about their mission. Many are not content to accept their lot in life and many begin to demand change.
But about this change; in investigating this concept, we discover another key characteristic.
**##Despite their parents, who understood that there is no such thing as fair, having grown up in the depression and seeing first hand the effects of “fairly” divided work hours, soup kitchen lines, and govt programs, the baby boomers seem extremely pre-occupied with not only the concept of “fairness”, (generally meaning what’s in their best interest) but with using the power of govt to compel and force others to do their way. Even, and especially, at the expense of someone else.
This concept paints the picture for many of the financial structure policies and problems our nation will end up facing in the next few decades. A “war on poverty.” Gross expenditure increases on some vague organization with no schools called the Dept. of Education. Some entity called the Dept of Energy who’s job it is to see that we have less of it. And over time, giant increases in Medicare and an expansion into something called Medicaid. They vote over and over again to give away other’s money in blind benevolence, but heaven forbid their own gets touched; union numbers skyrocket. These baby boomers exhibit careless conceit in not investigating out of patriotic duty program after program that comes out. They only say, “well the govt should do something about it,” but never giving a second thought as to what consequences may be. Many will vote out of concern for themselves first and foremost, rather than for the country.
As parents, the Baby Boomers are concerned first and foremost primarily with their own happiness. Un-wed births skyrocket in Gen X’ers, the boomers kids. Although some amazing rock’n’roll came out of the boomers and their kids, so also does an apathy toward national policy, foreign policy, or fiscal policy, both personal and govt. In Gen X we see folks who have watched mom and dad chase their own “happiness” so long, that they turned to music and drugs to avoid having to face the hard reality of their own success and in many cases good parenting of their own kids. Indeed, Gen X’ers who are great parents are generally the exception and not the rule, as they have had terrible role models from boomers. Rarely do they focus on character development or open dialogue about future goals and map out a plan to get there. They don’t know how. Boomers didn’t do that either. They just said, “peace will take us there,” and off they went. I put this back on the “Greatest Generation” for not instilling discipline in their boomer kids back when they were young adults. Why were they not paying attention as young parents? Often we find that the older Greatest Generation are terrific grand parents, but see that their kids, boomers, struggle in relationships, jobs, parenting etc. Why?